Why Recessions Cause Some to Divorce and Some to Stay Married
The experts who claim that recessions cause more divorces, rely on the theory that poor finances leads to additional stress, which causes depression. And nobody likes living with a depressive personality! Some experts also opine that without a money cushion, couples are left with the bare bones of their relationships and sometimes that's not so pretty to look at. Once they realize what the relationship actually is at its core, many want a divorce.
The experts who believe the recession is causing a decrease in divorce filings assert that people wanting a divorce know that the costs and fees associated with divorce litigation can be steep, as well as the costs associated with setting up separate households. People also know that the loss of jobs and the depreciation of assets mean that there will be less to go around when the divorce takes place. This obviously means that child and spousal support orders are going to be less than what would have been expected a year ago.
But I disagree with all of those who entertain the notion that the recession is going to have a long term effect on keeping marriages in tact. Most family law attorneys, including myself, will tell you that when a relationship is over, it is done! In most cases, any delay in filing for divorce because of the recession will only be a postponent of the inevitable.
Wisdom of Not Going Forward
In the end, holding off on going forward with a divorce during tough financial times may or may not be a wise decision, depending on whether or not you are the bread winner, how irresponsible the other person is in accumulating debt, and most importantly, if there has been a history of domestic violence. But under no circumstances would I recommend people stay together where there is domestic violence, emotional abuse, or child abuse. After all, there are some things money cannot buy, such as your right to be safe from abuse.