Being legally separated is not a requirement to file for divorce in Pasadena, but many couples do choose to file for a legal separation first. During a legal separation, there will be temporary orders in place for many of the issues that would need to be decided if you and your spouse eventually divorce. This includes child custody and visitation.
As a newly separated parent, you should try to make things as easy as possible for your children. Divorce is a traumatic experience for children, but you can help make the transition easier by working to make sure your child's home life stays as stable as possible. This means making sure your child has the ability to maintain the relationship he or she already enjoys with both you and your ex.
Whenever possible, you should try to promote a collaborative co-parenting arrangement. Judges like to see that parents can put aside their differences in order to work towards what is in the best interests of the children. If you are constantly arguing with your ex and unwilling to compromise on minor issues such as a 30 minute delay in the drop off time after a visit, this is going to make you look bad when it comes time to negotiate your final divorce settlement. Compromising is not a sign of weakness, it's the sign of a devoted parent who wants what is best for the children.
However, even though minor compromises are good, you should not agree to anything that you would not accept as part of a permanent arrangement. Judges often look to temporary orders as the basis for establishing a permanent child custody and visitation decision. Make sure your written legal separation agreement is a close reflection of what you hope to permanently achieve in terms of child custody and visitation.
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If you are interested in obtaining a legal separation, please call our office at (626) 683-8113 or email us at info@PasadenaLawOffice.com. Our experienced Pasadena family law lawyers can help you create a separation agreement that protects the best interests of both you and your children.